Why Do Women Always Bear the Burden of Society’s Failures?

In our society, women frequently bear the weight of injustices that should never be their responsibility. This systemic bias is evident when we look at how women are treated in various aspects of life, particularly in circumstances involving violence and abuse.

When a woman is harassed or assaulted, the focus frequently switches from holding the assaulter responsible to questioning the lady's behaviour. Instead of confronting the criminal and his crime, society often scrutinize her behaviour, attire, or choices. Even in the case of marital rape, there are those who argue that it’s a “husband’s right," to do anything with his wife and her body. For what reason is this? Why a woman doesn't have any rights on her body? Is she not human?

Similarly, divorce is often a process where the woman is unfairly blamed. Regardless of the inside problems, women are often placed in the centre of blame and the complexity of marital troubles is not addressed.

This systematic injustice is compounded by societal expectations placed upon women from a young age. For instance, when a woman gets married, she is often told that she is moving from her father’s house to her own house as according to society her father house is “paraya” like people says to every girl from young age only that you are a “paraya dhan” of your parents just because you are a girl. However, upon arriving at her new home, she frequently discovers that it is also not her home in the truest sense—it belongs to her husband. This contradiction raises an important question: if a woman have her own home or not, does she have a space of her own or not? Why does she have to relinquish her identity and sense of belonging again and again? Why?

Women play vital role in everyone's lives—they are mothers, daughters, and caregivers who hold families together, who takes care of so many families without expecting anything in return except some love and respect. Yet, they are often made to feel as though their struggles are insignificant, so many male of our society don't give them respect saying it's their work they are not doing any kind of “ehsaan”. Why is it? Doesn't a woman have any right to get respect?

The societal expectation that a woman must adjust her identity and sacrifice her personal space for the sake of others reinforces the idea that her needs and rights are secondary. Why is it? And assume if she does this for someone then doesn't other person have responsibility to give them respect, they deserve?

Why, even today, no severe actions taken in cases of sexual violence? Why must women continually suffer while society remains indifferent? Why every time a woman suffers? We always heard people saying that woman can't survive alone she always needs a man beside her to live her life, why is it? Why can't she live her life like she wants?

When talking about red light area women people says that “tawaifs” live there who don't deserve respect and not only that some women living in normal areas are also considered as tawaif. Do those people, even for one second, think that the men in our society have made them what they are? Why do they go to them if they think that those women are disgusting? Why do they go? First they go to them to satisfy their body needs and then they have the audacity to call them names and degrade them.

When people teach their daughters that it's their responsibility to uphold their parents honour, they should teach the same thing to their sons as well. One should teach their children that everyone deserves respect, irrespective of their gender, and that one should give it. The most important thing is that a woman's "no" means no, and her body is hers alone; no one has any right over it.

It is crucial to recognize that every individual, regardless of gender, deserves respect and justice. Women are not mere objects of control or judgment or to complete a man's body needs, they are human beings with inherent rights and dignity. It’s time for society to confront these issues head-on and work towards a world where everyone is treated with equality and fairness.

"Women are not born to be victims; they are born to be victorious."